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I Scrapped a Finished Episode to Record This One
I had a whole other episode ready for you this week. It was done. It was recorded. It was ready to go.
And then something happened that I could not, in good conscience, let slide without talking about first. So I scrapped it. Now I’m sitting down to record this at the last minute, which is honestly very on-brand for how this whole thing started.
This one is a little more raw than usual. And I think that’s exactly why it needs to come out this way.
Something I took an embarrassingly long time to see about myself
I’m always three steps ahead of my own life. Not in a visionary, strategic, I can see around corners kind of way. In a I’ve already moved on before I’ve even arrived kind of way.
I close a deal, and I’m already thinking about the next one. I finish something I’ve been building for months, and I’m already on to what’s broken. I hit a milestone and, somewhere in the back of my head, I’m still cataloging what isn’t done right.
People around me would celebrate things and genuinely pause to enjoy them. I would watch and think, yeah, that’s nice, and then keep moving.
I wasn’t enjoying anything. Not really.
I was executing. Delivering. Checking it off the list. But actually being inside it, actually feeling it? No.
I was going through the motions of a life that looked really good from the outside and felt hollow on the inside. And the worst part is, I didn’t even know it was happening.
I thought that’s just how I’m built. I thought that was ambition. I thought the discomfort of sitting still was just the price of being someone who gets things done.
For those of you who are into it, when I recently learned about my astrology, I was happy to blame it on my Aquarius moon.
But it wasn’t ambition. It wasn’t the moon.
It was an absence.
I was absent from my own life, managing it from a distance, from the neck up.
The blind spot nobody is talking about
The personal development industry has a massive blind spot.
It will teach you to regulate your nervous system, heal your money story, and open yourself to receive. And that work is real. It matters. I’m not dismissing it. I talk about it. I do it.
But it will almost never teach you to read a P&L, restructure your pricing, or build a delivery system that doesn’t require you to be present for every single client interaction.
And the business world has the opposite blind spot.
It will give you the strategy, the systems, and the execution, and it will completely ignore the fact that you are a human being making decisions from inside a nervous system that has been running in survival mode since you were seven years old.
So, you end up doing one or the other. And both leave you stuck in different ways.
The inner work without execution becomes a loop. You keep healing, keep going deeper, keep doing the work, and the revenue doesn’t move. Because insight alone doesn’t build a business.
And execution without inner work becomes a grind. You build the systems, you hit the numbers, you optimize the strategy, and you still feel completely hollow because you never dealt with what’s underneath.
Real growth happens when both are working together.
What being rich actually means
A lot of women, especially like me, have been living from the neck up. Not as a concept. As a way of being. Managing, executing, strategizing, solving, always moving to the next thing before you’ve ever actually landed in this one.
Our bodies are just the vehicles we drag from meeting to meeting, from laptop to bed, from bed back to laptop.
And we built our businesses from inside that. Which means we priced from inside that. Set our standards from inside that. Made every decision about what we are worth, what we’ll accept, and what we’ll tolerate from inside that disconnection.
And then we wonder why success feels like nothing when we get there.
You hit the number, and you feel fine. Relieved, maybe. And then immediately on to the next thing. Because if you stop, what are you?
Rich is not a number. Wealth is not a tax bracket. It is a full-body experience, emotional, mental, physical, spiritual, and yes, also your bank account.
Rich is emotional. It is the absence of resentment in your work. Making a decision and feeling it settle in your body, rather than justifying it in your head. Not having to manage your feelings around your finances anymore because you’re pricing actually reflects your value.
Rich is mental. It is clarity. It is that quieter mind that comes when your business is structured to support you rather than consume you. No longer carrying the weight of undercharging and overcommitting and pretending you’re fine with arrangements that don’t honor you.
Rich is physical. It’s sleep that actually restores you. A nervous system that is resourced for impact. The ability to be present in a meal, in a conversation, in a moment, without the background hum of everything you still haven’t handled.
Rich is spiritual. It’s alignment. It’s building something that matches who you actually are, not who you’ve had to become to survive. It’s work that feels like expression instead of obligation.
And yeah, rich is also money. Real money. Profit that stays. Wealth that compounds. A bank account that reflects the value you actually deliver to the world.
Rich is expansion. Taking up space where you were trained to shrink.
Rich is experienced. It is a life you are actually inside, not watching from behind a to-do list.
It’s engagement with your work, your body, your relationships, your money, and yourself.
That is the whole thing. It’s not the number. It’s the whole life felt, lived, embodied.
And when you start building from there, everything changes. How you price, how you lead, how you decide, how you rest. Because you’re no longer making those decisions in your absence.
You’re making them from here. From inside your actual life.
Here’s where I want to land
I don’t know how many of you recognize yourselves in what I’m describing.
You’re three steps ahead. You’re watching other people celebrate while your life slides by. Going through the motions of a life that looks great from the outside.
But if you do, I want you to know that it’s not just how you’re built. That is a pattern. And patterns can shift.
I connected recently with a woman named El. We are part of Lead and Empower Her She Talks, a global women’s organization. She is based in New Zealand. I am in San Diego. We have approximately no business being in each other’s orbit.
And yet we started talking, and it quickly became clear that we are both looking at the same problem from two completely different angles.
I come at this from the business side, profit, structure, the architecture of how you build something that actually pays you and doesn’t consume you. El comes at it from the body, from pleasure and identity, and what it actually feels like to be a woman in full ownership of herself.
And then, somewhere in a conversation, the question came up what if we put these two things in the same room?
What if the business conversation and the embodiment conversation weren’t separate tracks that led women in different directions and made them choose between? What if being rich wasn’t something you chased from a spreadsheet, but something you actually felt in your body, in your bank account, in your business, in your relationships, in your life?
That question became the experience. She named it. I didn’t. But it’s happening.
Not from a content calendar. Not from a strategy session. From two women who recognized something true when they saw it and decided not to wait for the perfect moment. Just put it on the calendar and do the thing.
What she and I are building together, this is just the beginning. There is so much more coming for women who are ready for the whole thing. Not just the strategy, not just the embodiment, but both together in a way that actually sticks.
Stop running on empty and start building real wealth, emotional, mental, physical, and financial.
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